One morning, I was making a pot of coffee but then I lost my grip, spilled the coffee, and made a HUGE mess. The coffee got all over the wall, stove, the floor, the cabinet, appliances:
Max and Wes were eating their breakfast when that happened.
Me: "Oh noooo...."
then I heard a reply:
Max, "It's okay, Ma. You can clean it up. Mama enggak sengaja bisa buat lagi. (translation: it's an accident. You can clean it up and make it again.")
I was very upset at myself for being so clumsy but his words made me feel grateful. I often say that sentence to him whenever he accidentally spilled or dropped things.
Although there were times when I lost my cool and spoke the negative phrases instead: "Why can you be more careful?", "How many times do I have to clean up your mess? :(
It's so true: "We Reap What We Sow". If I sow patience, I will reap patience; if I sow anger, I will reap anger; If I sow grace, I will reap grace; If I sow condemnation, I will reap condemnation; If I sow gentleness, I will reap gentleness; If I set too high expectation, I will crush their spirit.
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." Proverbs 15:1
"The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly" Proverbs 15: 2
"The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit." Proverbs 15: 4
"A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit." Proverbs 15: 13
Lord, help me to guard my heart and my tongue. Help me to speaks only words that make souls stronger; words that build others up and not tearing them down.
In case you're wondering, I am happy to show you my cleaned kitchen corner :)
PS: Michelle Duggar wrote a great post titled Zero Expectations here
awwww kokoooo <3
ReplyDelete:) I would do exactly the same thing if it happened to me!! I hate messes and I tend to beat myself up when I screw up!!!
ReplyDeleteYou raised a great boy!!! Good job Max!!! :)